Kubhala Lokuhlangene: Kucala

Ngicala lencwadzi ngicabanga kutsi awukafundzi kubhala ngesandla nhlobo. Futsi ngisho nangabe usufundzile, emakhono lonawo angeke afane nalawo lowadzingako kute ubhale ngendlela yekubhala lokuhlangene. Kubhala lokuhlangene kusho kubhala lokugijimako, lapho tinhlamvu tihlanganiswa ngemigca lebitwa ngekutsi tihlanganisi, nobe imigca lehlanganisako. Loku kusho kutsi ungabhala ngekushesha impela ngaphandle kwekuphakamisa lipeni lakho ephepheni, futsi loko kunetinzuzo letisobala.

Kubuye kusite inkhumbulo nekufundza emagama, ngoba ingcondvo yetfu ifundza ligama lelihlangene njengentfo yinye. Kodvwa nangabe sibhala ligama ngetinhlamvu letehlukene, ingcondvo yetfu kufanele ihlanganise tonkhe leto tinhlamvu bese yakha ligama, futsi loku empeleni kwenta kutsi sifundze emagama kancane. Ngako kuhle kubhala ngendlela yekubhala lokuhlangene nangabe ufuna kuba ngumuntfu lofundza kucabanga kahle kakhulu, ngekushesha lokukhulu.

Umugca Lotshekile

Sifundvo sekucala empeleni ngiso lesimatima kakhulu. Konkhe lesitakwenta kudvweba umugca lotshekile, njengemugca lotshekela embili losekhibhodini yakho, nobe lowo lowubona ekucaleni kwelikheli lewebhusayithi. Kufanele siyidvwebe yonkhe ine-engela lefanako futsi inetikhala letilinganako.

Empeleni kumatima kakhulu kukwenta, futsi bafundzi labanyenti bayahlupheka kakhulu ngako. Kodvwa nangabe ungakhona loku, usuwentile u-90% wemsebenti wekubhala lokuhlangene. Nangabe ungakhoni, kubhala kwakho kutawubukeka kubi kakhulu. Ngako kufanele usebentise sikhatsi lesinyenti, nemakhasi lamanyenti, udvweba nje imigca leminyenti kakhulu. Futsi sitawukunika emaphepha ekutijwayeta kute ukwente loku, netinkhombandlela tekutsi uhlola njani kutsi ema-engela akho alungile.

Asicale.

Ekucaleni, imigca yetfu letshekile sitayenta ibe nekuphakama kwemigca lemibili, ngako ifike emigceni lemibili. Nakhu lotakwenta. Utawudvweba umugca lohamba ngendlela lefanako nalowo losephepheni. Futsi sitawetama kwenta tikhala tilingane. Ngako sikhala locala ngaso, ngiso sikhala lotawuchubeka ngaso. Umugca ngamunye kufanele ube kude ngalokufanako nalowo longaphambi kwawo.

Angeke ngikutjele kutsi kufanele isondzelane kangakanani. Ingasondzelani kakhulu, kodvwa ingabi kude kwendlula bubanzi bemunwe wakho lomncane.

Bese uyayidvweba usuka etulu wehla phansi. Futsi uyidvweba wetama kutsi icondze futsi ibe ne-engela lefanako.

Nawusudvwebe lemine nobe lemihlanu, tsatsa irula uyibeke ephepheni uyidlulise. Yibeke icondzane nemugca wekucala, bese uyisusa uyidlulisela kulena lelandzelako, ubone kutsi yonkhe lenye ine-engela lefanako yini.

Lotakutfola kutsi labanye bantfu bagcina sebabhala ema-engela abheke emuva. Bacala kutshekela emuva, nobe bacala kutshekela embili kakhulu, nobe imigca icala kugoba. Loku kutawenteka. Kutawutsatsa sikhatsi kute ukhone kwenta luhla lwemigca lemihle, lecondzile, lenetikhala letilinganako.

Loku kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba lemigca letshekela embili lenetikhala letilinganako ngiyo leniketa kubhala lokuhlangene buhle bako, futsi ingemathambo ako. Nangabe ungakhoni kuyenta kahle nyalo, kubhala kwakho angeke kubukeke kahle.

Liphepha Lekutijwayeta 1

Ekhasini lelilandzelako, sitawunciphisa kuphakama kwalemigca letshekile ibe kuphakama kwemugca munye kuphela. Futsi sitawuchubeka.

Ngitawusho tintfo letimbalwa lapha. Kwekucala, umugca wakho ungema ucondzile kwendlula wami, nobe ungawela embili kakhulu kwendlula wami. Kodvwa lokungeke kwenteke, lokungafanele kwenteke, futsi lokungasoze kwenteka nanini, kutsi uwele emuva. Loko akuvunyelwe. Kodvwa ungawela embili kakhulu. Nangabe kwenteka, nawukhetsa kwenta imigca yakho itsheke kakhulu, kufanele yonkhe itsheke kakhulu, futsi yonkhe ifane. Ngako kutsheka locala ngako, ngiko kutsheka lokufanele uhlale unako njengoba uchubeka.

Kufanele uhlole ngerula, futsi kufanele utihlole ngekucinisa lokukhulu. Imigca yakho itawucala kushintja kutsheka kwayo, ngoba ekucaleni angeke ukhone kuyigcina inekutsheka lokufanako kuze kube sekugcineni kwemugca; bafundzi lababalwa kakhulu labakhonako. Ngako ungadzikibali, ungadzabuki, chubeka nje ukwenta, ngoba ingcondvo yakho itawugcina ifundzile kutsi kwentiwa njani. Kufanele nje uchubeke ukwenta ngesandla sakho nangelipeni lakho ephepheni.

Ngako siyachubeka, futsi sitawenta emakhasi lamabili ngekuncane. Ngiyati kutsi utawucabanga kutsi ngimubi, nginelukhuni kakhulu, futsi nginguthishela lomatima kakhulu, futsi utawungenyanya. Kodvwa ekugcineni, nangabe kubhala kwakho sekumuhle, utawutigcabha kakhulu.

Ngako lotakwenta kutsi utawenta emakhasi lamabili emigca letshekile, futsi utayihlola ngerula yakho kute uciniseke kutsi yonkhe itshekela ngendlela lefanako. Futsi utayihlola ngerula kute ubone kutsi yonkhe inetikhala letilinganako. Ngako yonkhe itsheke ngekutsheka lokufanako, futsi yonkhe ibe nesikhala lesifanako emkhatsini wayo.

Nguwe lotawukhetsa kutsi itawuba kude kangakanani lomunye nalomunye. Ungayisondzelanisi kakhulu, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela utawube utiletsela nje inkinga wena ngekwakho. Ungayibeki kude kakhulu, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela angeke ube utijwayeta ngalokwanele. Njengoba ngishilo, sikhala lesikhulu kakhulu kufanele sibe bubanzi bemunwe wakho lomncane, kodvwa kungenteka kutsi kube ngangesigamu saloko.

Ngako nyalo sitakwenta loku ngekuphakama kwemugca munye, futsi sitawenta emakhasi lamabili emigca letshekile.

Liphepha Lekutijwayeta 2

Liphepha Lekutijwayeta 3